Memory Keeper

A few of you asked how I keep memories safely tucked away for the boys after I shared a little glimpse of their baby books.  It seems silly for me to give any sort of advice on this matter- I am not someone who keeps scrapbooks or journals.  In fact, up until a few years ago, I never picked up a camera.  I studied abroad for six months in New Zealand and I brought ONE disposable camera for the entire trip.  Yeah. There are great chunks of my life that are completely undocumented, and left to memory.  And I am completely okay with that.
Now obviously times have changed- but I am still not someone who documents life with any regularity, except for keeping this space (and I can hardly believe I'm still here, writing and sharing after all this time).  I don't use Instagram or Facebook, I'm not really into over-sharing, and I only pull out my camera a few times a week. Vijay doesn't love being photographed, so besides catching little moments here and there, I try not to be in his face with my efforts to keep our memories alive.  I guess we kinda just live in the moment- or at least try to.  That being said- everyone needs a baby book, as well as family photo albums.  So here is what we do...
When I was pregnant with Vijay, I kept a memento book, of sorts.  The little wooden book shown above was what I used to keep notes from friends, cards, pictures of my baby shower, and other little odds and ends.  One of my favorite things to look back on are these cards (below) that everyone wrote to me at my baby shower, with little pieces of parenting advice and words of encouragement (thanks Beth for that brilliant idea!).  I'd love to say that Vik has a "pregnancy book" as well, but...that just didn't happen!
Once Vijay was born, I started documenting his early years in a baby book (now Vik has the same one, just in a different color).  I love these books- they are fill-in-the-blank (which is about all you have the brain-power for when you are a new mom), and they have space for pictures.  I love their handmade feel- each one is unique!  I also love the paper pockets for storing little odds and ends, and I especially adore the hand-lettered, and hand-drawn pages (please understand the tiny glimpses- these pages contain rather personal writing!).
Each of the boys also has a memory box where I store treasures- gifts, cards, drawings, favorite objects.  I also have a copy of the New York Times from the day they were born.  I think they'll like to see what was happening in the world when they entered it!
Finally, I keep family photo albums.  Every time I download pictures, I choose a few to add to a folder on my computer labeled "Album."  Once a year, I print all the pictures using Snapfish or Shutterfly, and I put them all into a cloth-bound Kolo albums.  I can fit two years into a single album, which I love.  I don't think the boys will want to inherit 30 albums, so I try be picky, without leaving out any memories.  I've been surprised to find that Vijay loves looking at these albums together.  We pull them down on rainy days and talk about all of our good times together as a family.  Have you ever noticed that toddlers LOVE seeing pictures of themselves?  I wonder when we lose this enthusiasm and start getting self-conscious about seeing ourselves in photos.
The one area where I fall short is video.  I have a few videos of Vijay as a baby, and none of Vik (gasp!).  I guess I'm not really sure what to do with video.  I'd love suggestions if you have any to send my way.  I'd also love to hear how you keep your family's memories.  I'm always on the lookout for new ideas!

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Thoughts on Brimfield

Oh Brimfield...once a year we meet, and you always kick my butt.  You really do... I find you exhausting, exhilarating, overwhelming and for the first time ever, a bit sad.  Let me explain.  I always block off one day in May to attend the enormous antique show known as Brimfield.  It is located in Brimfield, MA about an hour and a half from Providence.  I took Vijay when he was a baby, I went alone last year, very pregnant, and this year, I had Vik along for the ride while Vijay stayed home with a sitter (busy toddler + Brimfield does not equal fun).
It started out as a beautiful morning, sunny with a slight chill in the air.  Vik slept for the entire car ride, while I drank coffee and listened to NPR (did you know there is a whole wide world out there beyond babyland?!), and we both arrived feeling refreshed.  I loaded Vik in the stroller, and packed it to the brim with food, blankets, diapers, wipes, change of clothes, toys, camera, cloth bags, and my baby carrier.  We had a great time browsing for the first hour or two, but for some reason, I just couldn't get into the thrifting spirit (warning, if you want a happy Brimfield post, quit reading and visit last years post!).
And then it hit me- my feelings stemmed from the fact that so many of the vendors seem like they don't want to sell anything- no bargaining, and shocking sticker prices.  What kinda kills me is they have piles of STUFF that they cart around from show to show, and when you offer them $10 under their crazy high price, they huff and puff and tell you how valuable it is.  And all I can think is- I'm pretty sure you would rather hoard this stuff than sell it.  Like the pretty turquoise Ball jars above- the vendor had hundreds of them, and wouldn't budge off his $15 sticker price.  Can you imagine wanting to wrap all of those up and cart them to the next show, just to have them not sell again due to their high price?  I'm afraid I can't quite understand that mentality.
I don't want to be a downer, but I also felt overwhelmed by all of the STUFF.  I often have the same feeling when I walk into a Target, or other one-stop-shop.  In fact I rarely go to those places- I think my last trip was six months ago, and I broke out in hives on my chest.  No joke.  The environmental science nerd in me flares up, and I start thinking about all of the resources used to make all of the STUFF, multiplied by every big store across our country, and then across our world, and just thinking about all of that stuff, most of it plastic, and most of it cheaply made, and most of it destined for a landfill within a year of being purchased, causes me to flip out.  While I didn't quite have that experience at Brimfield, I did feel almost saddened by all of the stuff- piles and piles of it.  Granted, buying secondhand is SO MUCH better than buying new.  But my goodness, with so much old stuff laying around, I can't imagine why we need to make anything new (especially plastic stuff- there is almost nothing plastic to be found at Brimfield, all wood, glass, metal and tin...interesting).
Anyway...before I completely depress you, I will share pictures of a few of the things that caught my eye, as well as snapshots from a few of my favorite vendors.  They are friendly, their booths are artfully arranged and I always find a few beautiful little trinkets to take home (which I'll show you soon!).
I loved that vase...and looking at it again, I am kinda kicking myself for not just taking the plunge.  Can you imagine it chock full of flowers?  Oh shucks, maybe I'll have to go back tomorrow :)  I also thought the little metal basket for carrying mason jars would be charming to bring on a picnic (charming, but impractical with my boys!).
If I had the right knitting project, I would have bought a handful of those mother-of-pearl buttons.  They were gorgeous, as was that etched silver pitcher.  Sigh...loved it.  I also enjoyed browsing the small black and white portraits- wouldn't you love to know a bit about each person?  What's their story, who were they, and how did their picture end up at Brimfield?  I bought a few of the lavender sachets for $5 (not antique, but printed with antique images).  Perfect for little hostess gifts.
I really wanted a dress form for my studio, but I was a bit overwhelmed thinking about getting it into the car and home.  Same goes for the amazing dresser- I was this close to buying it, but I chickened out at the thought of transporting it with baby in tow.  Wouldn't it be amazing for a kids room?  Too, too cute.  Anyone going to Brimfield tomorrow that wants to lug it home for me :)
I love the pressed tin framed mirrors- one day, when I have the right space, one of these beauties is coming home with me.  Mark my words.
Finally, I'm always so tempted by the children's offerings.  That firetruck would have been a big hit at our house (but for $200 I couldn't do it), as would the adorable buckets (again, too pricey).   But I do love browsing the kids stuff, and imagining how loved it once was.
I would like to share the names of my favorite vendors- many of them have stores, and websites, so be sure to check them out (and if they don't have a website, search them out on the map if you visit Brimfield!).  They were so sweet, and totally cool with me taking pictures, and their kindness was much appreciated- Nesting on Main, Beth Hylan Designs, Cary Goodrich at Thoreauly Antiques, Eye Openers, Antique Therapy, Sage Farm Antiques.  Finally, if you'd like a peek at what Brimfield with a baby looks like, here you go....  and now you see why I couldn't fathom buying anything bigger than a thimble!

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Gardening


For mother's day, I asked for a Saturday morning to myself in order to visit three different plant sales and purchase all of my seedlings for the growing season.  It was pure bliss as the plant sales took place at a beautiful flower farm, a picturesque historic farm, and the best nursery in Rhode Island.  With an iced latte in hand, I hit the open road and enjoyed an entire morning to myself.  First stop, Robin Hollow Farm for flowers and herbs...
I then swung by Casey Farm (where I used to teach farm education!), and picked up all of my veggie seedlings for my community garden plot.  The last stop was Farmer's Daughter, a gorgeous, sprawling nursery.  I loved browsing their pots for inspiration (I like the combination of edible flowers and herbs), and I fell in love with their assortment of "fairy flowers."  Wouldn't it be fun to create a little fairy garden with these tiny plants?
The rest of the weekend was spent with my boys, enjoying our time outside.  Vijay "helped" me plant my seedlings, and then promptly dug about half of them up.  I'm keeping a gardening journal this year, tracking what I grow in my pots, as well as my community garden plot.  I'm using Polaroids to illustrate my notes, and I'm hoping it will help my gardening knowledge grow from year to year.
My community garden plot is off the HOOK- I am so proud I could burst.  Turns out I can grow veggies (my shady backyard had me believing otherwise).  Just look at this radish haul.
I cooked them up using this Scaling Back recipe, and they were superb!
In other news, Vik is moving about like a champ, mostly using an army crawl, but oh...I am just not ready for two toddlers!

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