Desperate Housewives?

NYT Magazine Article- hmm?
My husbands colleague saved the latest issue of The New York Times Magazine for me because there was an article on chickens. I tend to get this quite a bit! When The New Yorker ran Susan Orlean's piece on raising chickens, I received no less than five copies in my mailbox...from friends and neighbors alike! But today's article was of a decidedly different tone, titled "The Femivore's Dilemma: Can Chickens Save the Desperate Housewife?"

The title alone rubbed me the wrong way, and that was before I even got to the meat of the article. Without going into a long tirade, I will share the quotes that really seem to sum up Orenstein's argument "...The omnivore’s dilemma has provided an unexpected out from the feminist predicament, a way for women to embrace homemaking without becoming Betty Draper."

And furthermore "Femivorism is grounded in the very principles of self-sufficiency, autonomy and personal fulfillment that drove women into the work force in the first place. Given how conscious (not to say obsessive) everyone has become about the source of their food — who these days can’t wax poetic about compost? — it also confers instant legitimacy."

So now, if we are stay-at-home mothers, or "desperate housewives," we are raising chickens to legitimize our existence? Please. I find that incredibly insulting. Could it be that we raise chickens, sew our own curtains and raise our own vegetables because it pleases us...because it is good for the environment...and because we love surrounding ourselves with handmade, homemade joy?

naturally nina (March 17, 2010 at 3:40 PM)  

ew! seriously? who wrote that article??! and how can i give him or her (although i suspect "him") a piece of my mind?

tiph (March 17, 2010 at 3:56 PM)  

Thank you so much for this! It's so disconcerting to be told (by men and women alike!) that I should "do more" with myself, as if my own work at home (which includes many fulfilling activities) has no worth or purpose. I greatly appreciate what the early feminists did in terms of political, social, and legal equality for women - but I begrudge the attitude that says we must be career women or, as one (female) friend told me - "poor you, always doing house-y stuff."

Sorry that I take pride in my work and enjoyment in the fruit of my labor - NOT!

Leanne (March 17, 2010 at 4:03 PM)  

I couldn't even read the entire article... as someone who doesn't have kids, I felt like the article downplayed my reasons for raising chickens anyway! Am I raising chickens so I have something to nurture and fulfill my feminine duties? No! I have chickens because I love watching kitchen scraps get eaten and being rewarded with fresh eggs. Plus, they're pretty fun to have around!

I'm glad you brought this article up, though. I can't believe it ever got published!

Carolyn Williams (March 17, 2010 at 4:28 PM)  

Amen! Thanks for posting this! I don't think creating a healthy environment for ourselves, our families and the Earth is anti-feminist in the slightest.

Mommy in the Making (March 17, 2010 at 5:12 PM)  

Are you kidding me?! What crap. The whole point of femminism is that each woman (just like each man) gets to choose what to do with her time and life - no one should be told to stay home OR go to work OR raise or not raise chickens! Absurd.

Amanda

Mommy in the Making (March 17, 2010 at 5:13 PM)  

oh man - I just spelled feminism wrong.

note to self - do not get so heated that you don't reread your comment before posting...

becca ann (March 17, 2010 at 5:43 PM)  

oh dear, did a man write that? i'm thinking yes. feminism has granted women in certain socio economic brackets the ability to live their lives in a way that is satisfactory to them and living in a way that is good for the world, mind, and body seems pretty logical. how silly to suggest that one would live in a way that people have been living for thousands of years to escape some social construct, which at best is a limited understanding of feminism and feminist theory. i love chickens and sewing. i build gardens. i love practicing medicine and botany. it's alright for us to be whole women, indeed whole people. it is good to love what you love and to live in a way that acknowledges process, intentionality, and the beauty of the world.

Marianne –  (March 17, 2010 at 10:05 PM)  

three cheers for womanhood and however we chose to express it!
Marianne

Lulu (March 18, 2010 at 2:44 AM)  

i totally agree with everyone....it's feminist to CHOOSE what you want to do with your life. you can do whatever you want, and if you go about it in a feminist way it doesn't matter if you're a fashion model or a housewife, you're still a feminist and a plenty independent and liberated woman.
UGH articles like that make me mad!

Megan (March 18, 2010 at 7:35 AM)  

I agree with you. We can do these things simply because we enjoy them and they add dimension and interest in our lives. Of course we are avoiding being Betty Draper. She was bored and unfulfilled. Since when is it a negative thing to find and cultivate our own interests? We just can't win.

Jen and Chris (March 18, 2010 at 1:11 PM)  

What an incredibly offensive article. I am an art major who now works as a nanny to fufill my love of children until we have our own. I get my fair share of judgemental comments but this is just too much. I think the fact that you raise chickens is very cool and I have considered it myself (not sure how it would work with my two crazy dogs). Keep on being yourself because I LOVE your blog!

kath (March 18, 2010 at 8:39 PM)  

seriously? I am going to go read the article just to make myself crazy and get all worked up. Or perhaps I should just walk away!

N –  (March 19, 2010 at 10:16 AM)  

I actually think the article is pretty spot on. I don't think she's saying that anyone is "desperate housewife" for raising chickens -- I think she's getting at the potential pitfalls of a new incarnation of domestic work for women. I don't think that feminism is simply about "women being able to do anything they what" - the whole point of the 2nd wave was for women to be able to have access to power, to jobs, and to wages of their own (and, thereby, property of their own). The power to exist in the marketplace on her own, or with a partner.

I think this article is simply discussing the way that women who have left the work market may have an arsenal of education in their quivers, but could - in the long run - be fulfilling a traditional archetype of "womanhood" that might end up being dangerous. I think she's not criticing the realm of hearth and home, but instead exploring what the ramifications will be of so many educated women now relegating themselves (or choosing - whichever) to remain in the home without wages.

Beatriz (March 19, 2010 at 6:36 PM)  

Oh feminism... you're dammed if you do, dammed if you don't. I think y'all are totally right. It's all about our freedom of CHOICE about what we want to do with our lives. I with this person had approached "desperate housewives" from a different approach. Like the more modern mother who has to go to be the breadwinner AND come home and take care of the house completely on her own. Now that's a problem! Totally exhausting and unrealistic expectations for a woman.

Beatriz.
thatgirlinpearls.com

Beatriz (March 19, 2010 at 6:38 PM)  

Oh PS Lovely blog!! Thanks for challenging my mind today :) I'll be following!

Beatriz.
thatgirlinpearls.com

Caitlin (March 21, 2010 at 7:50 PM)  

I think it's the title and subtitle of this article are really unfortunate. They set up the reader with a particular perspective that may not be reflected in the whole article. I agree that the writer wrote some pretty offensive lines but she (it's a woman) also brought up an important perspective as well. If only she had highlighted the cool things that some women are doing with their homemaking energies without making so many assumptions about why they are or should be doing this. She wrote a book called Waiting for Daisy about infertility and another, Schoolgirls: Young Women, Self-Esteem and the Confidence Gap.

Another blog I suscribe to reviewed the same article and loved it. And I found myself agreeing with the points made by both of you. I encourage y'all to read the whole article. I definitely disagree with a lot of what she wrote, but there are a few gems in it. After all, it's sparked some great discussions, so there's at least value in that.

Kat –  (March 22, 2010 at 8:08 AM)  

Caitlin, would be interested to read the other review of this article, too! Could you share a link to it? :)

Caitlin (March 22, 2010 at 4:24 PM)  

Sure, it's from http://www.goinghometoroost.com/2010/03/chicks-with-chicks-the-femivore-movement/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+hometoroost+%28going+home+to+roost%29

Anonymous –  (March 25, 2010 at 12:12 AM)  

Well said. Thank you.

Moni Rose (March 29, 2010 at 3:23 PM)  

I was really disappointed in this article.
More people (read, women) are embracing a self-sufficient, chicken-raising, out of the office, lifestyle that is good for them, their families, and taking pride in it? AWESOME!
But I think it's insulting that the author calls it a rejection of the Betty Draper lifestyle, as if all other/previous stay-at-home moms embraced that "lysol" attitude. tsk.
The majority of women I know who've embraced this (my mom, my grandmas) self-sufficient lifestyle are the norm, and we should celebrate that!

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I AM glad that there is a movement away from the BD model though ... and a return to authentic home-maker-hood.

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