Happy New Year

The Taj
It is an odd feeling to wake up to the New Year knowing that all of my friends and family in the States are just beginning their celebration. Let me give you a sneak peek at 2010...it's fabulous, as I sit here with Delhi belly and a wicked head cold that I picked up in Agra! I would love to say that we rang in the new year with a lively party, but truth be told...I was in bed by 10, drugged up on cold meds. We did have a rousing silly string fight in our hotel room, which lasted for about 2 seconds. The clean-up, on the other hand, lasted a good half-an-hour. Happy New Year to that!
Agra village portrait
As we ring in 2010 and gaze at the great unknown of this year ahead, I can't help but reflect back on 2009, a year of joy, pain, growth, change and adventure. It was the year that we lost our pregnancy and experienced an unimaginable grief. It was the year that my writing career began to flourish. It was the year in which we traveled extensively, around the States and internationally. It was the year that I attended Squam (twice!) and met "my people." It was the year that we moved into our new house, a place that, after all of our moves, truly feels like home. All in all...it was quite a year. But then again, isn't every year?
City Palace, Jaipur
That is why it is so exciting to stand on the threshold of this coming year. We can only guess the wonder and magic that are in store for all of us...if we remain open to it.
Bathing on the steps, Udaipur
So let's toast to 2010...to new adventures, new challenges, new friendships. Thank you all for being a part of my life, for taking the time to visit me here over the past year. I can't wait for you to join me in this new year, just one more hour now!
Mom and her fan club!

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The Other Side of India

Agra portrait
The India I have portrayed thus far has been one of color and beauty, but to travel through India is to also witness crushing poverty. A type of poverty that you don't see in the States; the filth and grime are simply indescribable...human's defecating on the side of the road, animal waste littering the streets, piles of garbage burning throughout the markets.
Agra slums, Portrait
The hardest part is to see children living in these conditions. With their dirty faces, torn clothes and dreadlocked hair, you just want to scoop them up and take them home with you for a nice bath and change of clothes. You might think that growing up with the burden of poverty would cause these children to become hardened and bitter, but they are so lively, friendly and full of personality. They invite you to play their makeshift games of cricket and hopscotch, and they go crazy for having their picture taken. When we walked through the villages, we were followed by cries of "Photo, photo?" Their zest for life is incredible, and this speaks to the unbelievable resilience and adaptability of children.
Vijay and the village children, Agra outskirts
Another fascinating thing to observe is the mix of waste and recycling that goes on here. On one hand, the streets are littered with trash, and no one thinks twice about tossing their wrappers, boxes and plastic bottles onto the ground. Apparently an entire generation of parents forgot to pass along the "litter bug" lessons that we all received as children!
Slums of Jaipur
But on the other hand, there seems to be a second life given to every piece of waste. Cow dung is formed into paddies, artfully dried in the sun (as seen below), and used for fuel. Plastic water bottles are refilled and used as thermoses for tea. The landfills are picked over and no piece of valuable trash goes to waste. This spirit of ingenuity amazes me.
Rural Agra, Cow Patties Drying
The filth and beauty exist in a strange harmony here. In the middle of a grimy village, you will find a neat little snack shop, painted the most beautiful color of blue. The jars will be neatly line up on the shelves, the front stoop will be free of dust, thanks to eager sweeping, and the packets of snacks will be hung just so. Right outside of the shop, the gutters might be awash with waste water and trash...but inside, a shelter from the storm.
Agra shop
During our first week of traveling, I was wracked with guilt. Here we were paying top dollar to fly over, stay in beautiful hotels, eat three piping hot meals a day and tour around in our air conditioned car. The amount of money that we spent on this trip is more than most Indians will see in a lifetime. The average daily wage (not hourly, but daily) for a laborer, whether farming or doing manual labor, is 150 rupee, or $3. Since many of the women do not work outside of the house, this is all the family has to survive on.
Slums of Jaipur
My grief only subsided when I learned that in many towns, one out of every two people are employed by the tourism industry. Our willingness to travel to India meant solid employment opportunities for a great many people. Is that enough to ease all of my first-world guilt...certainly not. But it is a start.
Village Life, outskirts of Agra
So my conclusion to this long-winded piece: Is the poverty here heart-wrenching? Yes. Is it overwhelming? Absolutely. Should it prevent you from visiting...not in a million years. Just as the color, vibrancy, history and beauty are a part of India, so, unfortunately, is the poverty. There is nothing I can write, no picture I can show you to prepare you for the images that you will see if you choose to come to India, but don't ever let that stop you from exploring. To give in to that fear, would be to let the poverty prevail.
Outskirts of Agra

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In Living Color

Henna hands, Jaipur
One thing that is very apparent from the minute you land in India...this is a country exploding with color. From the vibrant dress to the colorful markets...to live here is to live in color. Being someone who paints my walls with pink, blue and green, I feel right at home!
Colorful home, Udaipur
Home...it feels so very far away, that distant land of snow and ice. But our trip is winding down now, we are on the last leg of our journey. Soon it will be back to the cold, the winter coats and snow boots. But for now, I will soak in these last days of color and light.
Jaipur Flower Market
Today found us landing in Agra, home to the Taj Mahal, and a few days from now, it is back to Delhi and from there home. But I will be back soon. India has captured my heart and stirred my soul.
The City Palace, Jaipur
So as you all wake up to greet the day, we are laying down to our colorful dreams. Outside our window, the Taj glows majestically in the distance. Oh India...you had me at hello.
Rose Garlands Jaipur

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I'd Still Choose You

The blushing bride
Your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event. You choose the one you want to spend your life with, don the white dress, proceed down the aisle and say your "I do's"....
Newly Weds....again!
And then the real fun begins; pick up your underwear, clean your dishes, pull your weight around here, do I have to ask you again?!? You know, the typical everyday life of a happily married couple. But what if you could do it all over again?
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I had that chance a few days ago when Vijay and I fulfilled a two-year dream of celebrating our marriage with a Hindu ceremony. Vijay was raised by a Catholic mother and Hindu father, and his dream, ever since our engagement, has been to have an authentic Hindu ceremony in India.
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So, in a gorgeous temple here in Jaipur, we recommitted ourselves to each other. Although the ceremony was in Hindi, with Vijay translating bits and pieces, I felt that I understood the core message...the promise of a lifetime of love and faithful commitment.
Promising
And so, with my vows, I recommitted myself to my husband, the man I have built a life with over the past two years. As I looked into his eyes, and listened to him repeat his vows, I realized that I am as every bit in love with him as I was the first time around.
Rose petals at our feet
As we were walking away after the ceremony, he leaned in and whispered..."If I had to do it all over again, I would choose you. I will always choose you."
Walking away

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Market Days

Spices, Udaipur
I hope that everyone had a lovely Christmas. We attended a quaint Christmas mass and visited a Jaipur-based mission dedicated to serving the mentally retarded. A few of the nuns there had worked alongside Mother Theresa...what an amazing, selfless group of women. It made us all reflect on the true meaning of the season. I've been wanting to talk more about the poverty and suffering that we have seen here as I feel that I have really only portrayed one side of India, but I haven't yet found the words to describe it. Soon though...it is a very real part of India and deserves reflection.
So as promised, I would like to take you on a quick tour of the markets of Udaipur. I have to say that one of my favorite things about India is the markets...the piles of spices, colorful stalls of flowers, crowded snack vendors. A trip to the market is an absolute feast for the senses.
The markets are broken up by vegetables, fruits, dry goods, spices, tea, baskets and textiles. All of the household shopping can be done at once, like a lively, crowded supermarket!
The very best part? Witnessing the art of haggling. If this were an Olympic sport, Indians would be unbeatable. It is a true art form here, and there is no better place to take it in than at the marketplace. Of course, as a white foreigner, I would get taken for all I was worth if I tried to jump in there...so I send Vijay to do my dirty work. He lives for bargaining and in all honesty, I think that this is his favorite part of traveling to India. We all have to listen for hours after as he regails us with stories of how he miraculously weaseled out the lowest price in all the land.
I don't tell him this...but my money is on the other guy. I am sure they have him pegged as a westerner the minute they lay eyes on him. But who am I to spoil his fun!!??
I hope you are all having a fabulous holiday weekend! I will be back tomorrow with an extra special post...hope to see you then!
Udaipur market vendor

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Merry Christmas!

Christmas Camel, Udaipur
Wishing you a very merry Christmas and the happiest of holidays from all of us here in India (including this dapper chap, all decked out in his holiday finest)!

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Faces in the crowd

World's cutest baby, Udaipur
Udaipur Portraits
Mother and baby Udaipur
I am going to make this a rather quick post as I am hitting the wall and about to crawl into bed. But first I wanted to share a few portraits from today's walk through the markets of Old Udaipur. What a fascinating mix of people.
Udaipur portrait
Tomorrow, I will take you along through the streets and markets of Old Udaipur and I think you will be amazed by the vivid colors. To try and take it all in would mean that your fingers would never stop snapping away at your camera...and 500 pictures later, mine sure didn't. 'Til then!
Udaipur portrait
Udaipur portrait
Udaipur portrait
Udaipur Portrait
Udaipur portrait
Udaipur portrait
Udaipur portrait

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Jaipur, Udaipur...Let's Call the Whole Thing Off!

Udaipur portrait
This is kind of embarrassing, here I was going on and on about Jaipur and it turns out that we were actually headed to Udaipur, another city in the state of Rajasthan. You can tell how much planning I did for this trip! So...let's recap: we flew from Delhi to Udaipur yesterday afternoon (just a quick one hour flight). We landed in Udaipur and, after a short drive, were taken by boat to our hotel, which is on an island away from the main town.
The Udaipur Oberoi
It is the most exquisite hotel I have ever laid eyes on, ranked number one hotel in the world by Conde Nast Traveler. Just take a look at our patio... Yes, my friends, five star here in India is like nothing I have ever seen.
View from our room, Udaipur
So we got to hotel just in time for dinner, and a quick walk around the ground, which are, in one word...opulent.
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And finally, the reason that we are all here...my boy. This perfectly captures his essence, the mischievous smile, twinkling eyes and tousled hair. I wonder what he has planned for us today?!
Vijay

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