I received a call from our social worker this afternoon and by the tone of her voice I knew she had bad news. She informed me that after our application was reviewed, it came to her attention that I was not old enough to adopt from India. The minimum age is 30 and seeing as I am only 26, we cannot move forward with the adoption.
As I hung up with her I was hit with a wall of hurt that can only be matched by the pain I felt after my miscarriage. I feel like once again, the dream I have of starting a family has been violently ripped from my hands. Although we were just starting the adoption process, I was making great progress...friends were lined up to write recommendation letters, physicals were scheduled, copies of our documents were made and notarized. I felt like we were well on our way, so to find out that we have another four years to wait feels like some sort of cruel and unusual punishment. I have so many emotions churning in my soul right now...anger, sadness, frustration, bitterness. I want to scream at our agency...how could they have let us get this far along and not have noticed something as obvious as my age. We already had face-to-face meetings with them and submitted various applications. What the hell?
So as I did after my miscarriage, when my heart was at its heaviest, I will be taking a short break from blogging. It was never my intention to make this space one of doom and gloom, and lately, that feels like all there is. When my heart is in a lighter place I will come back...until then, please know that I appreciate each and every one of you visiting me here. I will see you back here soon.
Wishing you love and lightness in the coming days....
*Christine
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